Welcome to my Blog about fitness, workouts, diet and about my personal fitness journey
We all have different style for everything in life, different values, different goals, but we all do have something in common. We all want to be healthy & happy.
There is so many of us who feel that we failed ourselves as we all share different situations that made us feel this way. Some of those situations we could avoid and in some of them we just fell in that trap and I will explain in this blog why that is totally ok.
For most of our life we can hold things together and we can keep up with all the challenges and obstacles, but it will come one time in our life (maybe more then one) when we will feel like we totally failed ourselves. We failed what we believed we should do, we haven't handled the certain way certain situations, we didn't deliver as good as we thought we could or life has just thrown at us a challenge that we can't cope with and we thought we are super human and we can deliver anything that this life throws at us.
Seeing this picture instead of feeling happy, I feel sad, because for a very long time I felt ashamed that weight gain have shown to all my clients and people I knew at that time, that I failed with all my knowledge and experience to look like a perfect example of fit and healthy mum. I am sad that this picture will always remind me on how I felt and if I would turn back time I probably wouldn't change a thing, EXCEPT on how I felt about myself. I would give myself a break of feeling that pressure to be PERFECT. Because I am a human and I am ALLOWED to make mistakes as life still goes on with all the glory of daily imperfections. I just wish I could see this picture and feel pride of delivering 9lb 5 baby that came out of my vagina and still have it in one piece and to be proud I am capable of making this little human, who now makes my life a total joy with his funny faces and wriggle bums while he is dancing. What do we worry about? How irrational we are and how unkind we are to ourselves? We will tell to every single stranger we see suffering "Be kind to yourself" and what do we say when we feel just like them? We probably say "I am a total failure" while you know deep inside "You are absolutely NOT a failure".
If you can relate to those feelings all I can say No, you haven't failed yourself. You just reached the time in your life when you are changing, your life is changing, everything around you might have completely different meaning now then it had before. You might need some time to get your strength back, to make those little changes that will be kind to your body, mind and soul and to focus on healing, rather then battering yourself with guilt and pressure to change RIGHT NOW and if you live in a negative environment who remind you daily on how you feel, it is probably time for you to change that environment with more positive one. Also, it is very important to talk how you feel. Talk, talk, talk is what helps you feel better, talking about your emotions you will be able to hear what you are going through and then your current situation might sound much easier to cope.
When you are the most vulnerable and you feel you are at your lowest, the great advice I've heard was in 3 words JUST KEEP STANDING. And it will come a day when you will be stronger then ever before and richer for the experience that thought you how to help and comfort others when you recognise what they are going through.
Do you feel trapped? Do you feel you will never get out of there? Do you feel alone?
You are not trapped. You can do anything what your heart wants. You can make a choice. You will get out of there one day when you feel ready and you are definitely not alone.
Here is a little homework that you can do now and you might get some answer for you to maybe see how you feel to make that little difference to your life.
I would like to ask you if you could take your pen and paper and just write down the answer to these questions:
Sending you big love and again Be Kind To yourself and Just Keep Standing!
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