Welcome to my Blog about fitness, workouts, diet and about my personal fitness journey
We all have different style for everything in life, different values, different goals, but we all do have something in common. We all want to be healthy & happy.
Being a mum for 3.5 years thought me many things. Some of them are:
* I am not a super human and I don't have super powers!
* 24/7 care is extremely exhausting
* Sleep deprivation leaves your soul on that pillow and you can become dangerous to your other half!
* I never thought I will become walking zombi
* We can survive without food
* Errrr can't remember when I washed face the last time
* You don't realise how you actually look as you haven't seen yourself in the mirror for years UNTIL someone tags the latest photo of you on social media (hmmmm!!)
Motherhood is a job! It is a really exhausting job WHICH MEN would NEVER UNDERSTAND, but we should remind them what motherhood also involves: you can clean 28 hours a day and house still looks like a tip, we can cook 20 meals and our children still won't eat any, we need 5 washing machines and 5 tumble driers to deal with all that clean clothes demand! I feel like if we would just be mothers to our kids that would be THE EASIEST JOB in the WORLD! Imagine if we could just play with kids, read them stories, run around soft play areas, teach them how to do puzzles and that we wouldn't have to do all that dirty stuff to deal with, mums would be the happiest!
In all that million task job, we have no time for ourselves. I know many mums are scared to ask for some time to be on their own, because they don't earn money and they don't have a "proper job" or they feel like they don't deserve it. But the importance of "me time" will give you a perception of how important your role is not just in your child's and partners life, but also you will have time to see what your values are and that you can still be true to yourself and to your dreams.
I need a "me time" to switch off, to recharge, to think, so I am able to give the best of myself to my children and my husband. I know kids will go one day to explore life. They will search for their love, their passion and for me is important to be the example how much is important to care about yourself. To show them how important is to feel comfortable in their own skin, to feel peaceful even when chaos is around and how to cope when life is not gentle. And you can do all that when you learn how much "me time" is important.
"Me time" means to me to have my own silence to repair my soul from all that motherhood chaos so I can have more energy for kids when is our together time - all day long! I need time to spend walking around shops just because I love to wonder around. I want to waste my hour to look pretty dresses, shoes, bags, just because my eyes feel happy. I need to spend time drinking coffee with friends because we can talk about gossip without having screaming kids who are more then happy to kick my precious coffee all over me!! I need to have that hour for myself to dry my hair and to feel pretty as I used to so I can feel more attractive to my hubby. I need that minute to remind myself who I am, what makes me happy, time to just be quiet and to hear my heartbeat. I want to have that hour to waste of doing just NOTHING. That "me minute", "me hour" means much more then any free time I had before. I can be reminded that I can be respected by respecting my own life, by giving a value to the most undervalued job to be a full time mum.
Respect yourself more and remember the impact of few hours to spend on your own a week is much more powerful then exhausting yourself beyond belief day after day, year by year.
You need you!
Now take that "me time" and enjoy.
If you are a mum and you would like to get your body back, join my new OUTDOOR POSTNATAL CLASS, starting November 16, at Memorial Gardens Newmarket. Check more details on this link and book your space!
If you are looking a personal training sessions to book for yourself or to recruit couple of mummy friends, you can read more on my latest offer on the link below.
It starts from the head. Exactly from there. From out head.
As a human being we have experience. That experience can be great, good and bad. Sometimes very good and sometimes very bad. What we've been thought in life is how to do things that the society expects us to do. Finish the school, be as good as you can be, do what your parents expect you to be, a good behaved kid. Then you have to find a job to earn and to pay your bills. Then to find a "perfect" partner and to have kids. And then to be a "great parent" etc. In all that there is a pressure to look perfect and to be a perfect role model to our kids. We all know what we need to do.
But what we didn't learn is HOW to look after ourselves. For me that is the most crucial thing to know in life. How to HANDLE life. How to MANAGE feelings and THOUGHTS. How to use exercise for our thoughts when we feel we can't get that life shit anymore.
That is what someone should teach us first. How to look after ourselves.
I see so often how much people struggle with weight loss. They WANT IT SO BADLY but they just can't do it. There is something in their head that is stopping them to get the most annoying thing DONE!
Because there is so much life shit in their life that is just too much for them. They simply have too much things going on in themselves and how to overcome that is go back to BASICS. Go back to the BEGINNING.
In every single one of us there is a reason why you can't progress. And before we start killing ourselves with guilt that we are not going anywhere, we should find the reason WHY we are not going anywhere.
First when we cope with that reason, then everything else will fall in its place.
Weight loss is easy. If you are in the right state of mind for it.
We all know what we need to do. Eat healthy, exercise more, drink more water. But actually is not that simple.....
If you want me to help you and if you need guidance, for the first 5 people I will give my special deal for Online Personal Training, where food and exercise program will be adjusted to your lifestyle and by tracking your progress we will do modifications to food and exercise.
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Looking forward to hear from you,
We spend most of our life disliking our bodies. We constantly try to feel less worth it, try to find disadvantages and we constantly feed our mind how we don't deserve happiness.
Let's turn that around today, and from tomorrow. Let's talk about our favourite parts. What do you LOVE about your body? Do you like the shape of your hands, nails, do you like your eyes, every time you see them in the mirror you love the colour and shape? Do you like the way your voice sounds? The skin tone? Do you like your curves or some specific body part? Or is there is something about your personality that you know is making such a big difference?
When I was younger, my mum always was brainwashing me and now I am so grateful for that as it changed my perception of who I am and who I want to become. She always told me, look can help in life, but it won't make any difference if I don't have knowledge and independence, and plus if I don't care about myself. She never let me to look down to myself and she was my biggest support to never doubt and to love myself for who I am and for all the qualities I've got. As a teenager I literally hated my nose and my bigger thighs. But how much is that important? How much those 2 parts of my body changed my life? Not at all. Now I don't even notice it. What it did change my life drastically was my knowledge and with knowledge I had confidence. I know many people who look perfect and have perfect bodies, but they don't see themselves that way.
Now I want you to think so well about yourself. You are not allowed to think "I hate this, I hate that. I need to lose this much weight or I need to get a plastic surgery to love this part of my body". You just have to think which part of you, your personality and the body you like. And think about it for the whole day and you will see there is so much more about you then just beating yourself to be or to look specific way.
The way forward is to accept yourself of who you are and not to be scared to be different. They always called me weird, I've been bullied in school because I couldn't fit in, but all until one day I realised that only I know my way, what I love, what I don't like and the only me could decide what my path I s going to be. Why it should be any different with you? You have people you love, people you care about, their opinions and their friendship. The rest of the world is irrelevant.
If you have something you love about yourself I would love to hear what it is :)
Just post in comments below :)
Have a great Sunday and let's start loving ourselves for who we are and the way we are!
Have you been lately unsuccessful with sticking to a specific diet plan, to a specific training regime or even you didn't succeed to get most of planned things done? Maybe you are just burnt out. Maybe you just need to take few days or a week of a complete mental break (you just to stop worrying and thinking about it) and just to take time to think about things that are in front of you?
I came home to my parents, to my home sweet home with lots of plans to make videos, to organise my business and to make some changes and to prioritise what is important and what can wait, that helps me when I get back to have more time for my personal development, for my own fitness training and food plan, but also to have relaxed time without much worries with my kids.
Well, none of that happened. I've put so much pressure on myself to be productive and to deliver all the time, but when I came here, kids have been struggling with heat, mosquito bites and they were in a total mess, which led me to become a total wreck and unable to even do a single workout myself. I have decided that I have to take time for myself. I have to respect my own productivity and if I don't give my brain and body so much needed rest, I will break at some point. So I decided to STOP. To stop thinking. To stop worrying. To stop being productive and to just let it go. And to just let life to roll. Day by day.
Few tips if you are burnt out and you are not seeing results. You can try couple of things.
1) take few days rest or a week, where you won't even have a thought of what to do, what to cook, when to go to the gym and have a workout
2) completely switch off
3) think what you truly love doing or what is your favourite program you like to watch or what type of book you like to read, so your brain can completely relax
4) is it the diet plan working for you? Is it too much thinking, too much planing or too much hassle? if it's working but you haven't got a motivation, just do a number 1 tip
5) exercise. Do you enjoy the workout program that you have been doing lately? Do you see results? If you don't see results, I think it's time to change the type of exercise. But if you have been seeing results, but lost a mojo, maybe some other activity would boost your mojo or find a workout partner that will keep you going
6) if none above helps, you should try and book yourself some last minute break to go somewhere warm and sunny. Normally warmth and the sun make you feel so much better!
I've reached many points in life where i've seen that things still happen without me and that I am so much more productive and more creative if I stop and just let things happen. We are all humans and we all do go through fazes.
Take your time. Life still goes on and it's much nicer when you are in it relaxed!
Have a great day!
Passionate about fitness, happiness, dreams!